Amber Ray’s husband Kennedy Rapudo has admitted that fatherhood is not a walk in the park.
In a recent interview with Parents Magazine, Rapudo said that being a father comes with responsibilities, with the most important being present in the children’s life.
Rapudo has three children, two girls (aged 13 and 1) and a boy(aged 9), with three different women, including Amber Ray. He also is the step father of Amber Ray’s teenage son.
“I thought fatherhood was easy. I thought it was just having children and them raising themselves, playing around but it is not that easy. You have to be present in their lives, in whatever they do. It comes with a lot of responsibilities, as a person, how you behave in front of them and when they are not there. The biggest challenge is financial because you have to pay school fees, rent…it is something that is more of a commitment,” he said.
The businessman revealed that he became a dad just when he was in his second year of study in university. Rapudo said that when he first found out that he was going to be a father, he was scared.
“I didn’t doubt her, I knew it was my child,” he said adding, “Most people my age, would have called her and told her to terminate the pregnancy but I told her we will raise it. At that point in time I started looking for jobs and became responsible. Aborting is not an option. I look at it now and say it was the best decision I ever made.”
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His biggest wish is however that he would have gotten all his children with one woman.
“There are so many things I would love to do differently, for example I would have wanted to have all my four children with one woman but we live in different zones, it is a system that is broken. It is what is, but I normally say I wish I had fell in love with one woman and have all this children with one woman but those stories don’t exists anymore, they only exist in movies and the nice books that we used to read,” he said.
He also shared challenges of being in a blended family, because of the stress and drama that might come from a co-parent. He advised parents in such situations to put their children’s interest first
“Let the interest of the child come first, your differences you will always solve them eventually,” Rapudo said.